User story:

Carina Bolton
Bestmed - Internal Auit Supervisor
Now that I am learning these things about myself, and I have tools from Mygrow to handle them better, I find that I can engage in more healthy ways
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Mygrow is helping me strengthen my relationship with my husband. Even simply learning about what triggers me has been incredibly helpful and has changed the way we interact.

In my previous relationship, I used to get really frustrated when I couldn’t get hold of my ex. He just didn’t communicate with me and would never answer my call. I didn’t realise that I had brought that old frustration into my marriage. Now that I am learning these things about myself, and I have tools from Mygrow to handle them better, I find that I can engage in more healthy ways.

Yesterday I couldn’t get hold of my husband, and I got very frustrated. (Give me time, I’m a work-in-progress ;). I actually got angry with him and told him that it’s a trigger for me when he ignores me. That didn’t help, and we had a big fight.

But after we had cooled down at the end of the day, after all the chaos was over, we sat down and had a debrief.

I had had a chance to think a little about what was happening for me in that moment, and I was able to explain where the frustration was coming from, and why. We had a really good chat about it. In the past I would have just been angry, but wouldn’t have been able to explain why. But now we can communicate more like adults and deal with our frustrations better. I am usually the hot-headed one in the relationship, and in the past, I would have blown up at him and then given him the silent treatment until he came and tried to sort it out. But yesterday I initiated the conversation to sort out the fight, so he can see that I am growing.

When we chatted he shared some of his own frustrations with me, and why he had responded the way he did when I got cross with him. We have so much going on and he has been feeling really disconnected from me. He was able to share that when I give him the silent treatment it’s a trigger for him because it reminds him of his own past. So I am particularly grateful we could sit and work it out.

“It’s amazing how differently we all experience things. We all have so much going on, and we all bring so much to every interaction. Mygrow has helped me not only understand that better but move forward in healthier ways.”

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